Why its okay to not have a Plan
I’m not going to lie, I love a good plan and I love planning. It just the sweet sense of security and purpose to me when I know where I’m going with life and even if I just feel like I have a tight-knit plan of safety around me. I always had some sort of plan and although I have always thought its for the best, it didn’t work out the way I *planned* it to. It was and still is very hurtful but by working through all the emotions I figured out for myself that always having a plan and almost being scared of letting life be, took away the magic. I never did a spontaneous trip, explored what it is that my heart desired or enjoyed being young and not having many things to worry about.
Sometimes I feel like there’s only one way to live thats acceptably: go to school, get a job, buy a house, get married and have kids. that’s it. but what’s in between? why do so many feel like there’s an invisible deadline fast approaching? I know I always have been an avid fan of living slow but being present in the moment and letting go of always planning and just being instead still is a journey but I would love to take you on that. So let’s talk; why it’s okay to not have a plan?
the comfort zone
I would say that I do have a comfort zone I don’t leave often enough and all the planning and doing and going forward with it just makes sure that I never have to leave it but what for? why do I find it too challenging to be challenged and not knowing what happens? maybe its because I like playing by the rules and I always have. It scares me to let go and dabble into what’s out there but whenever I have let go, I found myself in the best situations which made me grow into who I am today. Letting go of plans makes you move out of your comfort zone into the unknown and its okay to be scared and be aware of the anxious feelings but letting that stop you from living life to the fullest also is not the right way to go. it’s still incredibly hard for me but I’m on a very good way.
I love social media if I wouldn’t this blog would probably not exist but with people, including me, sharing pieces of their life online, I can feel the pressure to live life a certain way. I’m well aware that those shared perfect photos are just tiny little snippets and mostly only the very highlights of one’s life but I can put pressure on you to achieve certain things in a certain way or at a certain time. it almost seems like announcing a pregnancy at 20 is received differently than announcing it at 26. same with a degree. graduating within your 20s is celebrated but received totally differently at let’s say 37. the degree is the same, the effort is and the worth of it too.
so there is that pressure and leaving it behind is super tough but wouldn’t life be so much easier without it?
life is what happens
there is the very famous saying “life is what happens whilst you are busy making plans”. how true is that? making plans and manifesting ideas is very important and it will always be a part of my persona and the way I want to live my life but all the planning and pressuring myself is doing more harm than good to me especially if I feel like I’m missing out on the beauty of it all. I want to see the world, live somewhere else, find my path and just be present in the moment. I just have to let life happen.
as I said, plans can be amazing and essential to living a fulfilled and happy life but the pressure will take that away. and what for? why plan and pressure when it brings you down and makes you upset? there’s nothing worse than looking back at everything and wishing you did something else. event though I believe everything happens for a reason and have been there and it’s painful to realize that you essentially wasted time on something that did you bad instead of chasing your dreams and letting go. there’s just this one life and I better live it to the fullest.
Shoes: Dr. Martens
what about you? do you believe in making plans or do you feel the pressure? let me know and let’s have a chat.